The biggest lie I believed about weight loss

"If you're not losing weight, you're doing it wrong."

I believed this myth for decades. Every plateau felt like proof I was failing. Every week without a loss meant I needed to try harder, restrict more, do better. (Spoiler: that never worked. But I kept trying anyway.)

Here's why this myth is so damaging—and why I finally stopped believing it.

Weight loss is about as linear as my ability to fold a fitted sheet—which is to say, not at all. Some weeks you might see changes. Other weeks? Nothing. Or maybe you even gain a pound or two.

Your body isn't following some simple input/output formula. It's an intelligent system responding to stress, sleep, hormones, inflammation, and about a thousand other variables we're not even aware of.

Your body has its own sweet timeline, and it's not on your schedule. Sometimes it's busy doing important behind-the-scenes work—rebalancing hormones, cooling down inflammation, healing your gut, building muscle, releasing stored toxins.

The scale might not move for weeks while all this invisible work is happening. Just because the scale isn't moving doesn't mean your body isn't changing. The scale is only one tiny piece of a much bigger story.

These myths—that weight loss should be linear, that your body should respond predictably, that plateaus mean failure—are designed to keep you pointing the finger at yourself instead of questioning the broken system that set you up to fail.

And honestly? I got tired of blaming myself.

What if—and I know this might challenge everything you've been told—the system is actually what's broken? The one that makes $70 billion a year by convincing you that YOU'RE the problem. The one that needs you to fail so you'll come back and buy the next program, the next plan, the next "solution."

If you've spent years asking 'What's wrong with me?' maybe it's time to flip the script.

What if you're already doing better than you think? And what if your body just needs something different from you right now?

Here's to working with your body, not against it,

Betsy 💖

P.S. Here's my question for you: What does your body need from you right now? Hit reply and tell me—even if you're not sure yet. Sometimes just asking the question out loud is the first step.